Doing: Letting Go of Results – Day 4
The struggle I experienced during the time I was caring for my mother came from feeling that I wasn’t sure I was doing the right things, or that I wasn’t doing enough, or that I didn’t know what to do. The combination of these feelings made it difficult for me to just be with my mother.
Had I been willing to let go of wanting a specific result (wanting her to get better), I would have been more at ease caring for my mother.
Toward the end of our time together, I did finally let go of wanting her to get better. I moved toward making memories, not misery. In other words, I shifted my attention to what would be fun for us to do together rather than what would ‘fix’ the situation.
Developing an attitude of letting go of expected results will lighten the load of being a care giver.